Support integration in our children and ourselves.
Without integration, we can get stuck. These seemingly unrelated, unwoven bits and pieces of experiences keep interfering - putting limits on emotional growth, thinking, and learning.
What can we do?​
Pieces of previously unwoven experiences (thrums) 
​are present in the current moment, hoping to be woven in.
The bottom line is this, when integration occurs, things make sense. When integration doesn't happen, things get confusing.
In the optimal state, the information taken in by our senses during experiences, is integrated horizontally and vertically. 

In the art of weaving, the parts not woven in are called thrums. The thrums are laying around getting in the way, making it a challenge to easily move forward. 

 A smell, a sound, almost anything, can trigger parts of an “unwoven experience.” This can lead to reactions in the current moment that do not make a lot of sense. In essence we are not only reacting to the current moment, but also to what was left unwoven.
We may have strong emotions attached to these experiences, positive or negative. However, in either case, if these experiences make sense, then they will likely become woven in.
Not everything happens outside of our awareness. There are those things of which we are consciously aware; things that stand out for different reasons.
There are always things going on in your body and brain of which you are not consciously aware.
When I use the phrase, "the daily fabric of our experiences," I'm talking about this automatic 
weaving together. It can also be
called integration.
Our experiences become part of us, woven into 
our lives daily. This weaving together can occur without our conscious awareness. It just happens.

 Integration: The Daily Fabric of Experiences

When stuck in the lower part of our brains, the upper brain (the “rational” part) is not accessible.
Integration is not possible in that moment.  This experience is left unwoven. You have thrums 
​hanging around. These thrums could show up anytime
impacting the current moment.

"Mindfulness & Neural Integration," Daniel Siegel, M.D.

 at TEDxStudioCityED.  May, 2012

This means two things:  the right and left sides of the brain connect images and emotions with symbols and structure; 
and, the upper and lower parts of
the brain connect rational thoughts
and conscious memory with emotional reactions and unconscious memory.
 When an experience isn't woven in, it can
 may demand to be seen or heard at anytime,
stand out in a very LOUD way. It
and can be quite annoying.